The Journey of Remembrance: How Custom Urns Help in the Healing Process
18 Apr 2024 • 10 min read

Custom urns offer emotional significance as a storage vessel for a loved one's remains, and play a vital role in the healing process. With the profound impact of losing a loved one, there is a need for grief support and ways to embrace everything a person meant to their family and friends. Coping with loss takes time, but customized options for remembrance can help make it easier to heal from that loss and move forward with life again.

 

Susan Fraser
Founder

Introduction

When you lose a loved one, it can have a profound impact on your life. Finding a personalized way to remember and honor them is part of coping with loss, and can make the healing process an easier one. It's important to find the right way to do that, which can look different for everyone. For many people, though, choosing the right memorial options helps them grieve their loved one's passing and find ways to honor and celebrate them as they move on with their own lives.

Among the unique ways to create a lasting tribute to your lost loved one is a custom urn, which can provide you with a sturdy vessel for storing their remains and a beautiful reminder of everything they are to you. These urns come in many different shapes, styles, and sizes, giving you ways to focus on the personal touches that help you feel close to your loved one. The right pattern, engraving, and design all come together to signify the joy your loved one brought to your life. 

The Psychological Benefits of Personalized Memorials

Custom urns are an excellent way to provide a tangible connection to lost loved ones, and they encourage reflection and remembrance through providing you with a focal point when coping with loss. Having something you can see and touch that's a direct reminder of your loved one can give you something solid to remember them by and help you place your focus somewhere that gives you a feeling of peace and love.

Personalized memorials help you and others who are dealing with grief process their feelings and externalize them to create a healing atmosphere. You don't want to keep the emotional pain of losing a loved one inside, where it can't be properly expressed and can cause overwhelming grief. Being able to get that pain out into the open, through grief support and other options for coping with loss, helps make your healing journey an easier one and promotes closure.

When you have a way to honor your loved one with a personalized memorial, you create the opportunity to bring your feelings into the world around you and express them. That externalization of your grief and other feelings about your lost loved one makes coping with loss easier and provides important support in a very difficult time. Whether you're grieving alone or you have other family or friends who also experienced the loss, custom urns are a way to prioritize healing.

Stories of Connection and Comfort

Custom urns help families in their healing process every day. For example, there's Ryann, who chose a book-shaped urn for her grandmother's ashes. Her grandma loved to read, and the right shape and style of urn was a beautiful way to acknowledge and remember that. Customization not only helps provide you with a visible and beautiful representation of your loved one, but it can remind you of a special connection and encourage the comfort that comes with those fond memories.

Beverly also experienced a special connection with a loved one, and wanted to honor that for herself and her brother-in-law, who lost his twin to cancer. Since both men rode motorcycles, she chose a bell urn for a small amount of the ashes. It was given to her brother-in-law to hang from his bike so he could continue to ride with his brother, and will continue to be a cherished accessory that he can also hang from the mirror in his truck. That will help him keep his brother close.

Not only do custom urns help with honoring loved ones, but they showcase the essence of a person's life. That can encapsulate everything the person was to you and help transform your grief into a celebration of your loved one's unique and very human journey. Because everyone is different, your loved one undoubtedly had amazing traits, interesting quirks, and areas of life they really enjoyed. No matter what those were, there are ways you can remember them through personalization.

Guidance on Capturing the Essence of a Loved One

Selecting a custom urn is a special event, and it's one that's very important. You want to choose elements that truly capture your loved one's beautiful spirit, and focus on the things they loved most in life. There are several ways you can do that, and there's no right or wrong way. Choosing what's meaningful to you in remembering someone you lost is a very personal decision.

When you reflect on your loved one's life, what do you think of most? Do you remember their laughter, or the way they smiled? What about the hobbies they had, or how dedicated they were to a cause that mattered to them? Maybe they loved horses, or nature, or video games, or they liked to read, write, play piano, or draw. They were a valuable and significant part of your life, and it's understandable that you want just the right representation of your loss to help remember them.

Involving family and friends can be a great way to choose the symbolic materials and designs that are perfect for a custom urn, so you can honor your loved one as fully as possible. Telling stories and reminiscing with others who are also feeling the loss of a beloved friend or family member can help with the healing process and provide vital grief support. Coping with loss doesn't have to be handled alone, and when you grieve with others you often develop great ideas for memorial options.

Honoring Loved Ones With Custom Urns

Custom urns help provide comfort and connection during an emotional and painful time by helping you focus on remembrance in the face of loss. With a tangible reminder of the joy your loved one brought to your life, you can grieve in a healthier way and move past the immediate pain of losing someone who meant so much to you. With an urn that's customized, you'll also have a wonderful way to remember the things your loved one enjoyed in life as well.

Personalized memorials honor the enduring impact that a loved one has had on your life, and make coping with loss a little easier. While nothing can take away the pain of losing someone you love, having a reminder that you can see and touch is a way to feel close to them and think back fondly on the times you spent together. That's an important part of your grieving and healing journey.

Have you lost a loved one you want to honor and remember in a way that's unique to them? We can help you explore how a custom urn can provide grief support and guidance for your healing journey. By getting in touch with us at In The Light Urns, you can learn more about creating a meaningful tribute for your loved one, choosing the right urn for your needs, and coping with loss in a way that creates remembrance and beauty as you move through the healing process.

We understand that your loved one was special, important, and unique, and we offer a wide variety of urns and memorial options to honor the connection you had with your loved one, along with the things they enjoyed most in life. From cars, trucks, and motorcycles, to butterflies, books, and sports, there are custom urns that will help you have closure, and make grieving your loved one while feeling close to everything they are to you a little easier.

Key Takeaways:

  • Custom urns are excellent ways to create tangible remembrance options for honoring loved ones and coping with loss.
  • Working with friends and family members to capture a loved one's essence in a personalized memorial can help with the healing process.
  • A memorial option such as a custom urn can offer grief support through providing a tangible representation of your loved one.