True love can last forever, but everyone's time in this life will come to an end. When it does, many couples want to make sure they memorialize and honor that love. Whether they're looking for ways to pre-plan their own end-of-life celebrations and wishes, or loved ones are looking for ways to acknowledge their love after they're gone, there are many opportunities to showcase love and commitment, even after death. Here are some of the most important things to think about.
How to Memorialize a Couple
Memorializing a couple can sometimes be difficult. Loved ones on both sides of the relationship will have ideas about who the couple was, what they were like, and what mattered most to them. But some of those ideas might conflict, and some of them can be based on other people's perceptions. Instead of focusing on who the couple was to other people, carefully consider who the couple was to one another. The goal of memorializing a couple is to showcase their love for one another. It should always be about them.
Couples' cremation urns are one of the ways to do that, because it ensures that the couple that was so committed to one another in life will continue to be together in death. There are urns that provide different looks and styles, so there are choices that fit every kind of couple. Their unique love and care for one another, the hobbies they shared, and other areas of their life together can be reflected in the cremation urns that are chosen for them.
Memorializing Parents and Grandparents
Many people focus on memorializing their parents and their grandparents. Not only do they share fond memories of time spent, but as they grow older they often see their parents and grandparents in a new light. They see them as two people who love each other, instead of just as parents or grandparents. By viewing them this way, they come to know them differently and understand the value of the love they have for one another, as well.
Then, they look to memorialize what their parents or grandparents meant to one another, as well as what they meant to the rest of the family. By putting the understanding of them as a couple first, it's far easier to look for ways to memorialize them and their importance to each other. Couples' urns are a big part of that, and the options and styles to choose from mean that hobbies, value systems, families, and other important parts of their life together can all be acknowledged as part of their memorial.
Some children and grandchildren will likely want to choose a theme for the couples' cremation urns, especially if their parents or grandparents were very faith-based, or they had something that they always liked to do together. Significant hobbies or other areas of life that were deeply associated with the couple often become important areas where honor and acknowledgement can meet. That collaboration helps with memorializing the love and shared joy that parents or grandparents enjoyed throughout their lives.
Best Cremation Urns for Couples
As you consider what is the best type of urn that is ideal for honoring a loving couple, next are great options that can be uniquely customized and ordered today.
1. Espresso Wood Companion Photo Urn
The Espresso Wood Companion Photo Urn is a great option for couples to be remembered while capturing a beautiful moment that can be included in the urn. The handmade wood urn has a warm dark brown rich color with a design that perfectly complements a pair’s journey together.
2. Monarch Companion Marble Urn
The Monarch Companion Marble Urn also comes with the option to have two individual photos of a couple. Our dark gray marble urn with a marbleized finish creates an admirable presence. This particular urn comes with the option to have the custom engraved lettering be filled with a refined gold or gray color finish.
3. Heart Base Companion Urns
Our selection of Heart Base Companion Urns is an ideal choice if you prefer more traditional pewter or brass urns. This particular selection comes with various options and styles including the Love of my Life, Dignity Pewter and Gold, Living Garden, and Leaves of Peace companion urns. All our heart base companion urn selection offers an elegant and dignified presence.
4. Paradise Garden Premier Wood Urn
Nothing captures the rustic wood ambiance better than the Paradise Garden Premier wood urn. A beautiful handmade wood urn that keeps a simple yet pleasing nature theme. Honoring the love of a couple is captured in this urn with the tree of love and dove design.
5. Precious Memories Companion Urn
Similar to the Paradise Garden urn, the Precious Memories Companion Urn brings a natural rustic presence with a walnut wood handmade urn. Worked into the design itself, you see a pleasing graphic of two people sitting together. Ideal for a pair that enjoyed being present in the moment often.
6. Love Dove Companion Wood Urn
The Love Dove companion wood urn is made with beautiful alder wood and finished with a pleasing black coating. This delightful urn displays doves in flight connected with a heart of love making it an ideal companion urn for a couple that shared their lives together.
7. Old World Companion Urn
The Old World companion urn stands out as a great antique-themed chest made with mahogany wood. This timeless design urn includes a lock and key mechanism that compliment the antique map and chest display. This urn allows one to include not just cremation ashes but also any small additional trinkets that where special to the couple.
8. Photo Heart Companion Urn
Our gold-painted Photo Heart companion urn includes a splendid heart-shaped portion ready to display the perfect moment a couple captured in a photo. This urn can be customized with the image in full color or black and white.
9. Peaceful Pillow Water Urns
In our list of urns for couples, there is of course a biodegradable eco-friendly option that provides a beautiful alternative way to let go and say goodbye to a loving couple. Our series of Peaceful Pillow Water Urns allow families and friends to celebrate the lives of a loving couple in a ceremonial water burial that is unforgettable
10. Eternal Embrace Stainless Steel Pendant Urn
In our wide selection of cremation jewelry, we have here the Eternal Embrace stainless steel pendant urn. As the name entails, this pendant has two people in an eternal embrace for a couple that cherished a beautiful journey of love together. This lifetime jewelry can be accompanied with special love charms and make for great gifts.
11. 3D Subsurface Crystal Glass Photo Engraved Memorial
We also wanted to include in our list a stunning selection of 3D subsurface crystal glass photo engraved displays with lightboxes that make for appealing memorials. Made from optically pure crystal and laser engraved images, it will never fade, peel, or deteriorate in any way. A lasting keepsake, sure to become a family heirloom.
With all of our companion urns, we can engrave one side of the urn, or engrave all and leave the passing date open for engraving later. It can be returned to us to engrave when the time comes, there will only be a shipping fee. The urn can also be taken to a local engraver. Another option is to engrave all, but leave dates off.
Helpful Tips if You've Lost a Partner
Losing a partner is one of the hardest things that most people will ever go through. For those who have been together a shorter amount of time, the remaining partner may grieve for all the things they didn't get to experience together. Those who have been together much longer grieve differently, for all the memories they will carry with them, and the adjustment to a life without their partner in it any longer. While grief isn't easy, there are some ways to move forward from the loss of a life partner.
- Make sure you care for yourself: grief can be very hard on your health, and you might not feel very much like practicing self-care. But remember that your partner loved you, and would want you to be happy and healthy.
- Talk to people who care: whether you meet with a professional or talk to your friends or family, make sure you don't keep all your feelings bottled up. That can take a toll on you mentally and physically, and talking about your grief helps to reduce its power over your life.
- If you're religious, reach out to your church community: not everyone has religion as a part of their lives. For those who do, it can be a source of comfort during a difficult time. For those who don't share that belief, reaching out to other areas that can foster community, such as through a group hobby or activity, can help in much the same way.
- Focus on the good times: don't forget that between meeting your partner for the first time and saying goodbye for the last time, there was a lot of love, joy, and shared experience. Remembering the good times and thinking about them can help you feel close to a partner you've lost.
The most important thing you can do if you've lost a partner is to allow yourself to grieve. There's no timeline for grief, and you don't have to do it in any particular way. Acknowledge what works for you, not others. Talking about your loved one can help, because it lets you remember and acknowledge them to people who will listen. You want people to hear you, as that's a great way to honor the memory of your partner. Don't be afraid to talk about the good and the bad, as it was all part of your lived experience together.
Quotes for Couples, Whether Married or Not
Whether you're married, or in a committed relationship without the legal binding, there are some great quotes that can help you think about and remember the value of your partnership. Some of the most popular and significant quotes include:
- "We are most alive when we're in love." — John Updike
- "You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly." — Sam Keen
- "The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even heard, but must be felt with the heart." — Helen Keller
- "The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in." — Morrie Schwartz, from Tuesdays with Morrie
- "A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person." — Mignon McLaughlin
Love is a verb. It's an action, and it's something that needs to be practiced and valued every day. When couples take that love seriously, and when they work together for the good of the relationship, they can build the kind of love that lasts for the rest of their lives. This is the kind of love that leads couples to choosing cremation urns that will keep them close to each other, even after their lives here have ended.
