| Losing a Child
You
may grieve here for the loss of a child. It is never in the natural
order of things for a child to die before his or her parents. There
is no opportunity to prepare, resolve misunderstandings, or “say
good-bye.” Life for the parents and siblings is changed forever,
often in an instant, and it takes time for the reality of what has
happened to sink in.
As the reality of the death settles in, intense anger at the injustice
and deep anguish at the realization that the loss is “forever”
are normal. Your yearning to be with your child is also normal;
please do not feel alone. Discussing this current experience with
other bereaved parents and siblings can help ease the feeling that
you are losing your mind. The memories and emotions will always
remind you of the joy of their life and the pain of losing them;
please do not keep these feelings to yourself but, rather, share
them and keep the memory of your child and all adjacent feelings
out in the open - in the light.
Part of the healing process is learning to live amongst the living
again. Many families say that one of the most difficult things is
to see the world go on when the child or brother or sister is gone.
So it is important to find special ways to remember them. Keep your
spirit alive and talk about your child. You will find the memories
uplifting and your child will continue to be a part of your family.
More importantly, you may find that the grieving process becomes
easier. Remembrances can be as simple as including the child’s
name often in conversation, telling stories about the child, making
a special memory album, or even holding special family memorial
gatherings to remember and honor the child.
As the grace and love from the child’s existence tugs at your
soul, deepening your experience of love and life, have courage.
They entered this world because of you and they left this world
with all of the experiences that your love created for them. There
is no fear because the love of a family is everlasting. You may
not accept that they had to die, but learn to accept that they did.
One thing we will never know the answer to is why. The bond with
your child will never be broken because the love that has been shared
is real and will always remain.
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gone to great lengths to make their selection of urns and keepsakes
both sentimental and cost effective with a variety of companion
urns to choose from. For more information about In The Light Urns
or if you would like to see a complete list of their products, please
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